As a woman, we are so hard on ourselves. I know personally no one can be harder on me than myself. I want to share a few thoughts on my experiences to let you know you are not alone and you are “ENOUGH”!
Parenting- I was a very young mom with not a lot of guidance. The daughter I had is 18 now and everything I wish I could have been at 18. She just graduated and will be heading to college this fall to study Radiation Sciences. She has so much figured out. How did she get so wise? I find myself asking, “Did you prepare her enough to make good decisions? You could have done more for her, but it’s too late.” Clearly, I did something right, why can’t I just be ok with that?
Career-I have been at my job for 15 years. I didn’t go to college, but someone took a chance on me and gave me an opportunity that I didn’t take for granted. I worked hard to learn and continue learning. The truth is I could probably do more, but I don’t take many risks because of so many reasons, but fear of not being good enough is probably the main one.
Relationships- Life is busy! Most of the time just going to work and coming home is all I can manage. I want to be the friend that is there for everyone all the time. I feel I have neglected friends, especially the ones that have always been there for me. I feel like I am letting them down, but the truth is many are probably feeling the same way and just keep it to themselves.
Faith- To be honest, and it’s not easy to say, I have struggled with faith all my life. I did not grow up in a family that went to church. As I got older I witnessed so many good things that have made my faith stronger. There have been some dark days that I thought I would never make it out of, but somehow I found the strength to carry on. I want to be closer to God. I know I am not alone in feeling this way.
“God is within her, she will not fail” Psalm 46:5
Marriage- I am married to a wonderful man who does everything he can to be the husband he thinks I deserve. He taught me that I do deserve to be loved. He had a wonderful example of marriage growing up, and he understands the meaning of a life partner in every way. It took me a long time to feel like I was worthy of such a thing, but he shows me every day. This kind of love does exist, and it is worth waiting for!
We all have different circumstances. Everyone’s idea of “enough” is different. I often envy those women who seem so organized and on top of things. They have a career, have their kids involved in everything and manage to have a social life, but I am certain they still don’t feel like “enough” at times. God created each of us differently and gave us our own talents to share with each other. If we could just stop comparing ourselves to others it would make a difference. Until then, let’s build each other up as much as we can, and know that if you are feeling like you are not enough, always remember you are enough in God’s eyes!
“To one He gave five talents, to another, two, and to another, one, each according to his own ability; and he went on his journey” Matthew 25:15
Written by Lindsay Stokes