1 Peter 5:10 – And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast
I recently had started to see myself as a life coach and not just someone who offers advice without listening to the whole story or even hearing the feelings that are put in that person’s heart. I think that we all do that from time to time. What are we really doing for that person? What will they do with what we tell them? We are giving advice that they might agree to but aren’t at that point in their life to take that chance, or they are getting frustrated that we are just jumping in without hearing the heartbreak behind the problem. God tells us to help carry the burdens of our loved ones, not to fix them or to take them over. Galatians 6:2 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
I know that I get that way sometimes when I am trying to talk to someone about my concerns or issues in my life, and they just go right to saying what they would do or what I should do. Honestly, sometimes we just want to vent and get it off of our chest, move on, pray about it, and then just be done with it. Or we need to be probed to what we think the next best step is in overcoming it.
When is the last time you really listened to someone, and let them work through the problem? Let them make the call on their own without any advice? Before my coaching class, I did the same thing. I just jumped right in and started talking. What does that really do? Do you honestly think that person is going to do what you said? If they do, then they won’t succeed,because it was your plan and not theirs.
It is my hope that you are willing to challenge yourself to break barriers in your life and start making a difference in others. So I have a challenge for you – this week, listen to someone’s story without giving advice. Sound easy or difficult for you? I know that you can do this, and you will see what a difference it will make. Ask them questions on what they want to do, and support them. Again, give no advice. Proverbs 18:13 – To answer before listening- that is folly and shame.
Pray for them and make sure that you follow up with them to see how they are doing. We need to be there for others – those we know and those God will bring into our lives. This is one way to show people that we live for God, we serve Him, and we have Him in our hearts, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding(Proverbs 2:2)
Written by Sara Bankard