Author: Ashlei Woods
I remember being a new, first-time mom. So much joy in one little bundle. And so many nights lying awake, thinking of every scenario where something bad could happen to my babe. All the “what ifs” made me crazy. I recall one particular night when it got a little out of hand. My husband and I are both deathly afraid of snakes. I laid awake one night wondering, ‘If a boa constrictor got into our house and was headed for the baby’s room, would my husband be able to kill it before it got the baby?’ Laugh all you want. You know you’ve had the same thought. Well, maybe not the exact same thought. But that’s not even where it got out of hand. Next, I woke up my husband. Yep. You guessed it. I woke him and actually asked him if he would be able to handle that situation. You know….if it ever happened. I’m confident he thought I had finally lost my mind, but he kindly told me that yes, he would kill the boa.
I wish I could say it stopped there. As my boy grew and his sister came into the world, the worry didn’t stop. What if they got hit by a car? Or just taken right out of our yard? You know the fears. What if he doesn’t get off the bus today? What if she gets in a wreck on the way to school? None of us are strangers to worrying about our kids. But guess what? It’s time to stop, and here’s why: none of it is real. Yes, these things do happen to people in real life, but they are not happening to you. They are situations put into your mind by the evil one – some truth in your life, twisted into a lie. And it’s time to stop believing it. These situations and scenarios are not yours.
So if we decide to stop believing the lies and rely solely on God’s will for our children, does that take the fear away? This is where we can so easily cross the line. We might start asking ourselves, ‘But what if harm for my children is part of God’s plan for them?’ Maybe that thought has crossed your mind once or twice. Or daily. This fear is not from the Lord, and it’s not for you. It’s from the evil one, who is a liar and the father of lies. So how do we stop listening to these lies and put an end to this worry?
- Find your safe thought. Think of it as your happy place. Find a thought that carries you away from the moment, no matter what lie is entering your mind. When you start to hear the voice of lies, that’s when you use this defense. When that little voice says, “She could get hurt, you know,” go straight to your safe thought, whether at a secluded beach, a happy family memory or a mental picture of yourself or your children in the Father’s loving embrace. Focus on that thought and tell the voice to go away; it is not welcome in your mind. This is much easier said than done. It doesn’t just happen overnight; it’s something you have to train yourself to do. (2 Cor. 10:5)
- Bathe it in prayer. I know what you’re thinking – no brainer. I already do that. Well, maybe it’s time to start praying differently. We will spend the rest of our lives praying over our children – for their safety and health, success in all they do, a heart after their Father’s. But what about those lies? Are you bathing that in prayer? Start asking God to block your ears from the lies of the evil one. It’s not something we can do on our own, but the power of the Spirit in us is limitless. Start asking Him to reveal the lies to you and fill you with His presence to put an end to this fruitless and unnecessary worry. (Phil. 4:6)
- Remember they were His first. When the thoughts start creeping in that maybe, just maybe, harm coming to your child might actually be part of God’s plan, remember this: They were His first. Long before you ever dreamt of their existence, He held them in the palm of His hand. He is the one who knit them together in the womb, after all. He does not have plans to harm them. Yes, bad things happen in this world, because it’s a world full of sin. But I can promise you that through any struggle God will be glorified. And that is not something to worry about. (Jer. 1:5)